As parents we seek independence for our sons at an early age. However, philosophically the definition of independence we choose for our sons is more talk than action. In almost a bragging fashion, we talk about how important it was for our son to go away to college, experience life, and do so in preparation for the demands of adulthood.
Oh we start out with good intentions helping him decipher what it takes to avoid life-altering mistakes and make a good decision, but our helpful words are usually followed with a threat, “you need to recognize every decision you make will be on you, and one screw up could affect you the rest of your life.”
As well-intentioned, misguided parents our actions speak louder than our words. We never let our sons decide which team to play for, or even think about what college he should consider and why. Unfortunately, even as well educated parents, we tend to make uniformed decisions when it comes to baseball.
Decisions clouded by ego and what others think. No wonder when it comes to picking a college too many players end up at the wrong school. The beginning of what Jim Taylor, PH.D, identifies as “reversing our direction and stymie our son’s progression towards adulthood.”
Recipe for Success: Decide which college is best for your son is based upon the answer to three simple questions your son needs to ask himself;
Do I like the Coach?
Does the Coach like me?
Will I get a chance to play there?
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