So, when things don’t go our way, what do we do?
- How do we react when we don’t win the bid?
- How do we react when the Umpire rings us up on a bad pitch?
- Who do we blame when a Company decides to work with someone else?
- Or, you don’t even get a chance. The Coach doesn’t put you in line-up or your boss gives the opportunity to someone else
Accept it, whether in a baseball game, in business, or life in general, there are a million hiccups that can occur. The real question is, ‘are you prepared; are you ready?‘
We all know it’s easy to transfer blame, to be an arm chair coach, but I never met a successful person who said, ‘I wait until the last minute to get ready.‘ They also view failure as an opportunity to improve. Glenn Moore, author of Successful Guide for Athletes stated, “Dramatic changes can be made in your attitude once you admit to yourself that the problem you are facing will pass.” That is, provided we, like successful people, are not afraid, stop whining, and are willing to admit we have a problem. Whining actually prolongs our issue by refusing to admit the problem is ours and masks it by finding fault in someone or something else.
STOP WHINING! Then and only then we can resolve ANY ISSUE.
Because it’s how we deal with the fear, the FEAR associated with failure that determines whether we are mediocre or great. So let me introduce Glen Moore’s ‘Yes, but….’ theory.
The Yes, But… Theory
The “yes, but…” theory is something we learned at an early age, we tended to use it incorrectly. We never really took the time to understand the power of what we were saying, so it should not be a surprise we didn’t have a clue of the purpose of ‘yes, but…’ or who its purpose. Early attempts combined ‘yes, but’ with Whining in an attempt to make our parents change their mind.
Bobby is a year younger then me, but his parent’s are letting him go.
Failing to recognize the TRUE Power of the three letter conjunction, but!
“Yes:” identifies and admits the problem exists and in almost a Zen feeling the false FEAR we created in our mind disappears. Providing a clear view to what we need to change, what we need to do to correct our hiccup. Then by adding the word “but…:” eliminates the self-made fear simply by narrowing the focus of the problem to what the true hiccup really is. Stopping our fear in its track,
- Yes, I botched that opportunity, but when I truly spend time and become fully prepared I answer the mail and win the bid!
- Yes, that last pitch was outside, but I was right on him for the first two strikes, and I am seeing his pitches real well. I’ll get a hit next time.
- Yes, they teamed with another company for that last opportunity, but I realize I waited too long before approaching them.
- Yes, I am not in the lineup, but I have worked hard and when I get my chance I am going to make it very difficult for the coach to not play me.
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Until next blog,
Al McCormick
