“You may make mistakes, but you are not a failure until you start blaming someone else.”
An athlete diverts failure [blaming someone or something else] when he uses, “My-Bad.” It’s as if they are saying, it happens, get over it!” What they are saying is true, but why they are saying is the FAILURE. Instead of viewing a hiccup as a learning experience, an opportunity to get better, they are worried others are assigning responsibility for the failure.
Instead of blurting out a dismissive, unconcerned apology, “My-BAD,” why not get better?
I really do not care if Manute Bol or Rex Chapmen was the first to say, “My-Bad.” What I do know, it is a flippant apology that fails to benefit anyone. Those who say it are looking for sympathy; it’s the field, he got in my way, its…fill in the blank; transferring blame while refusing to admit they failed.
Failure is a necessary step in the learning process to becoming a better player! Acknowledging the mistake to yourself is the next step towards reducing your weakness, and in some cases the first step in uncovering a weakness. Which is why apologizing to others for making a mistake is a missed opportunity to get better.
Identify your weakness, organize a plan to reduce it and maybe, just maybe, you will eliminate the hiccup altogether! Any way, you have improved versus transferring blame.
Until next Blog,