“You may make mistakes, but you are not a failure until you start blaming someone else.” ~Anonymous
Instead of viewing our hiccup as a learning experience, an opportunity to get better, it’s easier to passively blame someone or something else. Approaching it from a, ‘defense in a offensive’ sort of way with two words;
My-Bad
I agree, it does sound like we are taking blame for our mistake, but what we really are saying (e.g., psychiatrist makes us feel better by calling it our inner-voice) is…
It happens to everyone, get over it!
Translation: If I hurry up and act like I am taking the blame, there’s a good chance others will join me in justifying why it was never really my fault in the first place.
Critical inner-voice or not, when we blurt My-Bad out and tap our chest, we are transferring blame. It is a flippant apology to others for making a mistake that results in a missed opportunity for everyone to get better.
So instead of My-Bad; take the first step towards reducing the mistake by acknowledging its existence. Then, and only then we can organize a plan to reduce it and work together to eliminate the hiccup altogether!
Until next Blog,
Al McCormick
