Happy is defined as a feeling…or showing pleasure
Dan Gilbert, Harvard Psychologist and author of “Stumbling on Happiness” stated the majority of us “…believe it [happiness] is something to be found.” Mentally created by our prefrontal cortex which creates our personality expression, our decision making, and moderates how we interact with others – including ourselves.
That area of the brain we use to mentally/visually experience anything before we actually do! A synthesized version of the truth it what Mr. Gilbert called it. The visual form we use to mentally describe ‘Making It’ and/or being ‘Happy.’
- As an athlete we are excited with the beginning of a new season until we are faced with tryouts.
- In business we envision the new job, the promotion, or winning a difficult opportunity which can be clouded by the interview, someone else selected, or another company wins.
It is our opportunity to Enhance or Destroy the mental picture we generate about what is success, what makes us HAPPY. Yet, as vivid and scary our mental picture of failing is, it is far worse if we win and do nothing with it; make the team, get the job, get the promotion, or win the proposal. Richard St. John describes it as, “…we reach success, and then stop!”
In the end, we begin the process of destroying the success, destroying the happiness we created, only to generate a synthesized happiness, “It was for the best as we never enjoyed playing for them, we never enjoyed working for them, the new position was overrated, and in the end we were doomed from the start. It is our way of transferring blame through a false sense of justification!
Zig Ziglar said,
“You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.”
BE A WINNER and, BE HAPPY!
It really is that simple.
Until next Blog,
Al McCormick
